A Cinematic Time Capsule: Why We’re Drawn to the “Bad Boy” Trope
It’s a well-worn trope, but there’s a reason why it persists: many women find themselves drawn to the “bad boy” archetype, even when they are accomplished and intelligent individuals.
Nicole Kidman: Radiance Personified
However, this initial attraction can often lead to a painful dynamic. The “bad boy,” initially charming, may exploit your kindness and love, gradually exerting control through distrust and disrespect. You find yourself constantly trying to please him, trapped in a cycle of self-doubt and emotional distress, struggling to break free.
The Allure of the Flawed Artist: A Cautionary Tale
Consider the character of Isabel in the film, who chooses a seemingly perfect artist as her husband from a pool of admirers. Beneath the surface, he is revealed to be a controlling, cold-blooded, and even sociopathic individual. His behavior torments his own daughter, leaving her afraid of the world and unable to pursue her own happiness. One might even diagnose her with Stockholm Syndrome.
Controlling both lover and daughter
While this scenario might seem like a relic of the past, such individuals exist even today. The film presents a contrasting figure in Isabel’s cousin, who offers selfless and unwavering support. However, the cousin’s tragic fate underscores a harsh reality: in life, such unwavering support is rare.
Wishing the cousin had survived
The Illusion of Uniqueness: A Recurring Pattern
Works like “The Portrait of a Lady” and “Madame Bovary” have long illustrated this cyclical pattern. Men often approach relationships with a rational mindset, while women may fall prey to the illusion that their love is unique and transformative. Yet, whether in the past or present, these dynamics remain largely unchanged.
We often romanticize the unattainable “bad boy,” clinging to the fantasy that we can somehow be different. However, human behavior tends to repeat itself.
If you find yourself struggling to let go of a past love, consider visiting the ward of a hospital. It serves as a stark reminder that death is the only true certainty. While the pursuit of love is worthwhile, it’s essential to maintain a sense of reason and perspective.
Words to Remember
Here are some poignant lines from the film:
“Pain is profound, but it passes.”
“It is fading.”
“But love remains.”
“Remember, if someone hates you, someone will love you.”
Exquisite costumes and captivating performances
Nicole Kidman, a truly remarkable actress!